Tylauna Gilder of Mesa on Life, Lessons & Legacy

We recently had the chance to connect with Tylauna Gilder and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Tylauna , thank you for taking the time to reflect back on your journey with us. I think our readers are in for a real treat. There is so much we can all learn from each other and so thank you again for opening up with us. Let’s get into it: Are you walking a path—or wandering?
Oh wow! I’ve not been asked this question aloud before, however I frequently ask myself this question. . .

I would like to say that I do have a path that I’m walking on. I know my path is filled with laughter and joy, but the career destination includes my interest in art; whether that’s becoming a tattoo artist or a freelance artist, I want to maintain my love for art and showcase it to the world.

However, I do find myself wandering at times. Be it mental/physical health, spirituality, or just doubts in myself, I take a pause and/or drift the path sometimes to tend to these matters.
Honestly, I feel that everyone can relate to this. We all have issues that we have to go through that land in our pathway.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’ve been drawing since I could pick up and properly navigate how to use a crayon, ever since then it just felt right and came natural to me. I would draw whatever came from my imagination or how I felt at the moment, what I saw or who I admired. However, I would have to credit my love for cartoons and anime for keeping my artistic flame alive, haha!
As I grew up, I became an artistic wildcard, I was pretty much able to do a lot of different art forms from drawing to sculpting to eventually animation!

Over the years, my art has definitely progressed and has included a variety of mediums with a variation of styles. I I even launched a small business to sell my artwork as stickers and will eventually make other merch such as posters and t-shirts! However, I will say that much of my artwork is definitely for a mature audience.

And as of lately, I’ve been pursuing a career in tattoo artistry!

Okay, so here’s a deep one: What breaks the bonds between people—and what restores them?
I believe that trust is a big thing that can break and/or restore bonds between people.

When you break someone’s trust, the bond with that person breaks which leads them to build up a wall with their guard up. It then takes a long time for that person to trust you (or anyone else) again.
However, once some time passes, that person can decide if they want to trust you again; when that happens that trust eventually gets restored, which leads to the bond between you both to eventually be repair.

Of course trust takes a lot of work, it’s not easy and takes a lot of work between either parties involved. Although, I believe trust is a powerful concept and you cannot build a bond without it. They both go hand-in-hand!

If you could say one kind thing to your younger self, what would it be?
If I could say one kind thing to my younger self, I was tell her, “You are perfect the way you are!”

I had a lot of self-esteem issues and worried a lot about my appearance when I was younger due to bullying and harassment I had received from many people in my life. I still hold some of those issues in my adulthood that I continue to work on, but they’re not as bad as they were.

I was very self-conscious about my weight, I thought I was more heavy than what I was even tho I was curvy and very muscular. The bullying made me binge eat my issues away. . . Or so I thought. It wasn’t until I turned 22yrs old that I realized that I reached the weight I had always feared in my youth, which made me spiral and binge eat even more.

There are many issues that I’m facing now that extended past my youth, and there is more I wish I could say to myself, but that’s for another time. Until then I’m doing my best to heal from such issues.

Alright, so if you are open to it, let’s explore some philosophical questions that touch on your values and worldview. Is the public version of you the real you?
Yes and no. . .

With how delicate the social climate is, it’s hard to truly be myself. Especially my deplorable sense of humor, it’s probably “not okay” in this day and age, but I still like to have a good laugh haha.

Plus everyone is so political and heated about it! Too many people like to argue and get violent over it instead of trying to have a civil discussion, it’s ridiculous! So I stay away from that type of stuff and I keep to myself until I can trust someone enough to have those discussions.

Okay, so let’s keep going with one more question that means a lot to us: When do you feel most at peace?
I feel most at peace when I’m hanging out with my husband, dog, friends and family.
Nothing beats that feeling when you’re with the ones you love, especially when you’re with people you trust and feel safest with!

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