An Inspired Chat with Matt Derdivanis of Scottsdale

We recently had the chance to connect with Matt Derdivanis and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Matt, thank you for taking the time to reflect back on your journey with us. I think our readers are in for a real treat. There is so much we can all learn from each other and so thank you again for opening up with us. Let’s get into it: What do you think others are secretly struggling with—but never say?
Entrepreneurs, while driven and ambitious, are susceptible to several mental health challenges, often intensified by the unique pressures of their profession. For me and others I believe it’s imposter syndrome. Which affects a significant portion of entrepreneurs, with studies showing 84% experiencing it.

Impostor syndrome, also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome, is a psychological experience that causes people to doubt their skills and successes. It’s characterized by a persistent feeling of inadequacy and the belief that success is undeserved, even when evidence suggests otherwise. People with impostor syndrome may attribute their accomplishments to luck or external factors, and fear being exposed as a fraud.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is of course Matt Derdivanis, I’m 40 years old. Got my start in real estate early 2020 during the height of my mother’s aggressive battle with leukemia. It’s safe to say that was the covid era, one of the easiest years of real estate, not to mention when interest rates were at an all-time low. Considered to be one of the best times in real estate.

As far as who I am, that’s a hard one. There’re so mamy facets to me, too many dynamics. I’m just someone that like with anyone else is attempting to build something significant. I had a rough start in life, but everyone’s got their story, I’m no different. I think at some point you just decide to make a life change. Honestly believe some of us are destined for more and complacency isn’t in the cards. I just wanted more out of my life and seeing someone especially My mother facing unsurmountable odds with an agressive form of cancer. It’s a paradigm shift. There’s no looking back at that point. It’s literally burn the boats, no retreating. Famously coined from Hernán Cortés’s conquest of Mexico, where he ordered his ships to be burned after landing, leaving his men with no option but to conquer or perish

My brand is just me, me playing for legacy, for all time. I’m honestly looking to impact everyone, because I want to show that you can build wealth, build value,real value, and greatness the right way. I think everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. I break everything up into black and white and gray EQ and IQ and I think those are the two pillars that I look at somebody even myself. I’m incredibly hard on myself, always have been. I’m an athlete at heart, we feel things differently, at a much deeper level. To make things clear, I had no handouts, I didn’t come into a family with money, or a real estate family syndicate where you just casually strolled into a brand that was already there long before you decided to leave the old town scene. I didn’t have assets or leverage to appeal to the masses, I just got in and worked my face off. Am I there yet, of course not, but nothing worth having ever came easy. I could write a the greatest novel on earth, probably could make Barnes N Nobles best seller but we don’t have have the attention span to get through the first chapter and entrepreneurship is a book with many chapters.

There’s a lot I have going on, always will. I’m always planning, always thinking of new ideas but some of my best ones are the unreleased ones. In due time. Plus I don’t like going back on my word saying I’m going to do something and then I don’t end up doing it.

Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What’s a moment that really shaped how you see the world?
I think realizing the world doesn’t really care about you. That came from losing certain people, them losing you just as much. Seeing the sides to people that even alluded them subconsciously.

In essence, while the world may continue to move forward regardless of any individual, your existence and actions still hold significance and value. 

The world is indeed a hard, cruel place, and other people can make it harder and crueller than it needs to be. I’ve found that the best way for me to bear it is to first keep myself as well as possible. The description “vulnerable and fragile” can be exactly how I feel if I’m unwell and overwhelmed.

What have been the defining wounds of your life—and how have you healed them?
I think coming from any form of trauma, abuse, certain tramatic events, can continue to harden their grip on anyone. That can sometimes endure a lifetime. The things that hurt me the most weren’t just the physical aspects but the words that hurt just as much. My father although supportive wasn’t as much of a risk taker as I was and that certainly came with it’s own share of problems and criticisms. Same with my stepfather but that one came packed with a lot more powerful punches. I wear that on my face but I took my licks as with life as with anything. Some people just come a lot harder with it. I knew though not necessarily at the time but now I do, it oftentimes you can be reflection of someone else and what they hate about themselves. It’s not you, it’s inherited, passed down. Once I realized that it wasn’t me, I just was an innocent bystander of what you didn’t fix about yourself it became clear to me that this wasn’t me, but I still had to forgive myself and get myself right and do the things, the work that would allow me to continue to grow so I don’t make the same mistakes.

I think our readers would appreciate hearing more about your values and what you think matters in life and career, etc. So our next question is along those lines. What’s a cultural value you protect at all costs?
I don’t know if it’s still considered a cultural value or not because a lot of what we’ve been taught we’ve unfortunately done away with, scrapped, unless it was that important to us or benefited us in some way. Honesty which runs along the lines of keeping it real just as much. I won’t hide it. Everyone expects things to be or look a certain way so they don’t or aren’t forced to deviate. Not everything is meant to look sexy, but we’ve been conditioned to believe that even when we compromise on our own belief system like we just accidentally did so as if it wasn’t our intent.

Okay, so let’s keep going with one more question that means a lot to us: If you laid down your name, role, and possessions—what would remain?
I believe my character although I’m not perfect, I’m so incredibly flawed like anybody else. I can’t be bought, my soul, my character they all intertwine they all run along the same lines. I’m not up for sale nor discussion. Once you lose that you lose everything. I’ll take my licks, I’ll take it to the chin, and worst case I’ll sacrifice myself because I have a deepening relationship with myself, my awareness and the world around me.

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• Website: https://Realtorofscottsdale.com
• Instagram: Imsellingaz

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