Life and Work with Raquel Diehm

Today we’d like to introduce you to Raquel Diehm.

Raquel , please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?
I had no idea what I wanted to do with myself – with my life.
I felt incredibly lost & confused.

I did exactly what any other lost & confused young adult did- follow what everybody else was doing & just go to college!

As the universe had it, I accidentally took two classes that changed my entire life;
Existentialism & The Science of Happiness.

Existentialism, in a nutshell, is the meaning of existence.
This class made me question the FABRIC OF EVERYTHING; every thought, belief, emotion, action, & pattern that I found myself doing over the course of my life. “Why am I even the way I am?” This class allowed me to reflect on myself & then consciously choose what I wanted to think, believe, feel, and physically do with myself.
-BOOM. My whole internal world changed.-

The Science of Happiness hit me like a ton of bricks.
I discovered there is an actual PROCESS & STEPS you can take to actually become a happier person, & ultimately, ‘win’ at life. “Wait, what? If this is an actual thing, why isn’t ANYONE & EVERYONE doing this?!” I rapidly became obsessed with the topic. I became that annoying kid always talking in class, asking questions, and going way overboard with assignments because I just couldn’t get enough. To me, I struck gold. If I was going to die in 80 years or so, I want to live my life the best way that I can… so LET’S GO! Now, it was time for action.
-BOOM. My entire external world changed.-

I looked around me & wondered, “why isn’t everybody around me as excited as I am?”
I found so many people had the attitude of ‘just getting through’ the class, the assignment, and the quickest way out possible. And not just in that class, but in college itself!

To me, I was like “what do you mean you’re just trying to get through this!? You are learning the keys to fulfillment, prosperity, & everything that you want! Why wouldn’t you be excited?!
What is going on here?!

Noticing the attitude of the people around me, it made me realize that so many people were doing things that they don’t even want to be doing.

They didn’t like their major, their classes, & their goal was to pick the easiest classes possible so they can get through successfully to get that piece of paper.

I thought, first of all, you’re paying for this, & second of all, don’t you want to enjoy your education?! What actually do you WANT to learn?! It’s not about the piece of paper, it’s about the experience of learning what makes you feel ALIVE! I found that so many people around me were simply.. unhappy.

I thought, hold on! There is a problem going on here! This is the time of our lives where we are supposed to feel the most excited, curious, & exploratory… and it’s completely dead.

This birthed the desire to help the people around me go on the journey that I found & did for myself.
I went from a place of “going through the motions”, directionless, & feeling that something was missing, to a place of excitement, clarity, and feeling A L I V E.

Now, this is what I get to do! I get to help people find their voice again, unveil their true desires, and set them up with the confidence & clarity necessary to go live their lives with enthusiasm, passion, & fulfillment! I get to help people feel alive again. And to me, that’s pretty cool.

This is my muse, and I am thankful that God has given me the desire, the path, and the clarity to wake up excited every day to help people in this way.

I am truly thankful.

Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
My journey has been… A JOURNEY!
Uncertainty, insecurity, and feeling like I am the only one!

The people around me weren’t doing what I was choosing to do, so I felt alone at times!

However, that never set me back. Choosing to INTENTIONALLY live my life that way that made me feel the most alive, never made me felt so aligned in my entire life.

I knew I made the right choice when searching for the clarity I needed in order to find my own voice and feel authentic with every breath that I took.

I found two strategies that helped me the most on my journey back to myself:

One was isolation.
I am a 99% extrovert – so I fundamentally LOVE people. However, I realized the people around me were a product of my environment and were not chosen intentionally & consciously. I realized my thoughts existed because they thought them too. But what did I actually think when I’m alone? Who am I when I’m alone? These questions allowed me to spend some time alone with my own thoughts, emotions, & tendencies when no one else was around and question the fabric of EVERYTHING that made me… ME! This allowed me to develop my own voice and think for myself! Doing this, I discovered myself on an intimacy level I didn’t know I even could! I really felt like… me 🙂

Two was intentional friends.
We are social creatures, and we fundamentally need other people to survive & thrive!
I looked for people who had something that I wanted or who I would want to trade lives with!
And when you look, YOU FIND!

When I surrounded myself with people who were growing, it made it easier to grow too! I encouraged and helped them & they did the same for me.

Not only is this a practical decision, but it significantly increases your happiness level when you have people who are there to help you grow, support, & love on you. In fact, its a game changer.

In this life, we are not meant to do it alone.
First, be your biggest cheerleader and be there for yourself.
Second, go be there for others.

This is my favorite starter pack, because, well.. it works! 🙂

Please tell us more about your work, what you are currently focused on and most proud of.
I am a coach!
I help people remove the fog from their lives and see the utmost clarity in their lives so they can run alongside life with no hesitation!

I help people who feel like something is missing in their lives to a feeling of a new breath & vigor!

I am most proud of solving the problem that I had for myself for so long. I worked on myself every day, but I didn’t really know my true desires and I didn’t know what to run after! Now I have the confidence to walk my path with clarity!

My favorite part of helping others is watching their “mask” melt right before my eyes and I can SEE THEM for the first time! They feel like themselves for the FIRST TIME. It’s like a sense of coming home again!”, which is my favorite response.

I had a mask myself. I hid behind my identity & my “character” for so long. I held a lot of my identity in my hair. I really cared what I looked like, and what you thought of me. One day, I woke up and I noticed that my “identity”, was holding me back from really being & feeling like ME. It was holding me back. So, I made the boldest action I have ever done and shaved my hair off completely. Now, there was no choice than to feel like myself, because myself is all I had! It was the most liberating experience I have ever had.

My mission is to help people feel that sense of liberation. That doesn’t mean people have to shave their heads too, that just happened to be my path. I help people feel this way, even without the scissors.

What advice would you give to someone at the start of her career?
Patience.

Patience my love!

Being patient is so hard when you don’t know the end result!

It’s good to remember that as soon as we think a thought, it doesn’t immediately manifest into reality right away!

It takes time!

“But how much time do I have to wait?”

Pish! As long as it takes! No one knows what tomorrow holds, so just focus on TODAY!

Also don’t get caught in the comparison trap!
You don’t need to be comparing your day 1 to someone else’s day 100!

And you are not them! You are YOU! The most ATTRACTIVE & SEXIEST quality about someone is when they are unapologetically themselves. You have permission to be yourself, that’s the best part about you.

Trust the process & honor the struggle.

Your time will come baby. It’s already on its way.

Contact Info:

• Email: rockydiehm@gmail.com
• Instagram: @rockydiehm

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