Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at represeMegan Stephennting the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups areCydnii already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
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Sharon Bodine Rejuvohm Queen Meditative Spirit Activator
Believe in YOU! Remove yourself from those that do NOT. There is nothing insurmountable with Passion, tenacity, WILL POWER & proper intellectual programming to achieve & conquer aspirations the ego once perceived as insurmountable.
Amanda Garbade – Certified Clinical Hypnotist (CCht) & Life Coach
The best advice I have for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to first breathe. You have to breathe before you can do anything. Breathing deeply and focusing on that breath as it passes through the nostrils, down the throat, into the lungs and diaphragm, and back out again helps send calming signals to the body and mind so that a person may step out of the fight, flight, or freeze mode and into the rest and digest mode where clear thinking can occur. Second, I take my focus to what I want instead of what I don’t want by Socratically asking myself questions around the thought that this challenge is insurmountable. What evidence supports this thought? What evidence is there to contradict this thought? Is this thought based on facts or feelings? Is this thought black and white or is it gray? Do I view the world as black and white or gray? Is it possible the world is more complex than what black and white allows for? How might other people interpret this situation differently? Am I looking at all the evidence or just what supports my thought around this challenge? Could my thought be an exaggeration of what is true? Did someone possibly pass this thought or belief to me? Are they a reliable source? Is it a likely scenario or the worst-case scenario that this challenge is insurmountable? Last, what steps can I take to increase my chances of accomplishing this challenge? Then I execute knowing I will do the best that I can with that I have at the time. All the while, still breathing.
Sara Waide Bowers – Realtor, Entrepreneur, Professional Dancer
I’ve faced many challenges at different points in my life that seemed I would never overcome, but somehow, some way, I did! My mantra is the 3 P’s. Patience Perseverance Persistence A bit of wisdom that has helped me as well is: Eat the elephant one bite at a time. When I come across a really tough situation, I take a step back mentally and emotionally, my head cocked to the side and take its measure. If I can’t go over the top, is there a way to go around the side, dig my way underneath or punch right through the middle to achieve my goal? There is ALWAYS a way. Maybe not in the time frame I had in mind and maybe not the way I had envisioned, but it will happen! Trust in your inner knowing. It will NEVER lead you astray.
Kristi Winona Reidhead: Hair Stylist
When facing a large challenge, it can be scary! But fear holds us back, while faith in ourselves helps us achieve greatness. I just try to remember, everyone who ever achieved anything wonderful, made history, did something amazing, well, they were once “just a somebody” amongst the crowd too. So why not you? Why not me? So dream big, make plans, and go for it!
Kayla Blum: Fitness and Wellness Specialist & Online Coach
My answer to this is to keep pushing! The best things in life are the things that feel insurmountable!! Today it may feel like the hardest thing in the world, but if you keep pushing, 6 months from now you will look back amazed at how far you have come. The greatest thing I ever did was start my business. When I was first starting, and even sometimes now, the challenges I face feel like I will never get past them. But I keep pushing, I keep dreaming, and I get through it every single time. You truly can do anything you set your mind to!
Kourtney Pittaway – Owner and Lead designer of Monarch Events
I’ve had to make some scary leaps since starting Monarch. Whenever I face a challenge that seems too big to overcome I typically ask myself… am I happy with where I’m at right now? If I don’t go for it and don’t try to overcome whatever it is that’s scaring me, am I going to be content with that decision? The answer (so far) has always been no. If you’re answer is also no, my biggest advice would be to have confidence in yourself. Attack this huge challenge by doing little things to give you the confidence to make the leap. Whether it be researching marketing maps, checking off the to do list one by one, breaking down a budget plan, etc. Do the things you already know how to do and then build confidence as you start to knock out the things you didn’t know how to do. I find way too often that people make the tiniest things into the biggest road blocks. If this challenge is going to take your business, happiness, fulfillment, etc. to the next level then have confidence that you are capable! Let your confidence in your ability reassure you enough to know that you’ll find a way. And you will!
Denise Nicolette – Wedding Planner
Keep believing in yourself! Don’t listen to the lie that this is more than you can handle. Keep telling yourself the truth; that you can get through this. Staying positive can give you strength; as you do have control over your attitude and how you respond to challenges. There is power in the healing words and help from good friends; hold on to them.They can help keep your sprits lifted. Stay busy preparing for the future you envision; this will help to keep you going and not get stuck in negativity. Remember this is only a season, and the new season is right around the corner, and you will be better because of this challenge. Never stop dreaming~
Chelsi Jo Moore – Designer and Co-Owner, (my mom) Pam Lemons Co-Owner
The best advise I would give someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable would be to take time every morning, even if its just five minutes, to close their eyes and speak to the person they want to be on the other side of the obstacle. No matter what the situation is that we are in there is always another side of it that we will be standing on. The more you connect to the person you want to be when you get there, the more likely you are to overcome the conflict you’re in. The magic of going through trying times is we can either use those seasons in our life to embrace the refinement happening within us or fight against it and stay rooted to an un-evolved version of ourself.
Kristin Sanchez – Wedding Planner, Health Advocate and Cancer Survivor
Attitude is everything. While battling Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer I quickly learned that my attitude would make or break me. Positivity, even in times of turmoil, heals your mind, body and spirit and takes the same amount of energy as a negative mindset. Also, surround yourself with a support system. No matter what your insurmountable challenge is, support from friends, family or others going through the same situation will help you remember that you are not alone.
Reagan Johnson – Floral Designer and Owner of Copper + Bloom Floral
You are not alone. I have to tell myself daily that “I am smart, strong and worth it.” Fear is a liar, and you CAN conquer any mountain standing in your way. Most of the time, the mountain or challenge we are facing is our own self-doubt. Stand up TO yourself, so you can stand up FOR yourself.
Megan Stephen- Mom of 3 Girls, Posts lifestyle images and aims to inspire those who come to her feed.
The best advice I have for someone facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to pray and ask the Lord for guidance and wisdom. Give the situation over to Him and take it one day at a time. Remind yourself that you have so much to be thankful for and that you are blessed. There is always a beautiful rainbow after the storm.
My advice to anyone who is facing something they feel is insurmountable is to know that everything has a reason and that everything will get better. Sometimes when we don’t get something we want or feel like we’ve failed miserably, there is most likely a better opportunity around the corner. My senior year of high school I ended up missing the last SAT that I could take because I forgot my ID and cried for hours thinking that I wouldn’t get into college. Luckily I ended up getting into one of my top choices of schools and received a scholarship! Sometimes everything in life feel like they are not working out but most of the time everything works out the way it needs to (and sometimes it’s even better than what you wanted). Keep faith, pray, and never lose hope!
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Confidence! You have to be bold, you have to believe in yourself! If you don’t, no one will. Every challenge is an experience that will teach you how you get up, dust your shoulder off and try again with the knowledge and experience you have now.
Missy Gaspard – Health and Happiness Coach
First of all, we should welcome challenges in our lives – they are mechanisms to prove just how strong we are, both mentally and physically. Secondly, no challenge is insurmountable; it’s a mindset. Shift it and you will be downright shocked at how capable you are to handle what life throws in your path. Life is about moving fluidly through phases and accepting what’s in front of us. If we intentionally lead with our full hearts, we can’t go wrong. If the challenge is crushed, celebrate. If it’s not, accept and release and quickly gear up for the next one. We are either winning or learning – not ever losing. Life is tragically short, too short for worry and anxiety. There is beauty in this world tucked behind every corner — you have to keep your eyes open wide, a smile on your face, and your feet moving forward. Embrace it all.
Maria Bryant aka Riirii – Model and Entrepreneur
The best advice I could give someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable would be to take it one day at a time. Deal with things as they happen and try not to worry too much about the future because whatever is supposed to be, will be.
Sheyla Sánchez – Fashion and Beauty Blogger
I’ve been through really tough situations in the past. I would like to let you know that NOTHING in this world is permanent. That things will change for the better and this situation was brought up on you to make you stronger. I promise you that you will look back in time and be thankful for what you are going through now. And, that laughter is the best medicine. Smile even when you don’t want to, force yourself and it becomes contagious.
Molly Larsen – Content Creator & Influencer
I encourage you to believe in yourself, your ability and your power to overcome all obstacles in life. It’s okay to have those fears but be sure not to stress over a situation as that won’t help solve the problem, be calm and have patience. Use your quiet time to reflex on what’s going on in your situation. Then resolve your problem one small step at a time. And again believing in yourself that you can do it and you will be able to achieve it. There will always be sunshine after the storm.
Allie McCormack – Romance Novelist
There’s an old saying my granddad used to quote: “Save your pennies, and the dollars will take care of themselves.” Sometimes looking at the overall challenge itself seems overwhelming/impossible to reach, and that can be self-defeating because you’ve already given up before you start. Take the challenge and break it down into steps, or manageable chunks. Make a plan. If you decide you want to run in the Boston Marathon, you don’t start out by running 26 miles! You train for it, starting at your comfort zone, then start pushing yourself a little farther each time, increasing your distance, speed and stamina. When I sit down to write, I don’t think, “I’m going to write a 100,000-word novel today.” I sit down planning to write a scene, or a chapter, and then the next scene or chapter. Every year I participate in National Novel Writing Month (November), which is a challenge to write 50,000 words in the 30 days of November. If I thought too much about that 50,000 words, I’d never get anything written, because my mind reacts like this: “OMG! 50k in one month? No freaking way!” Instead, I do the math…. 1,667 words a day. Okay, I can do that! So every day, I focus on THAT day’s goal, and if I get more, yay n stuff. Now, of course I’m still aware of that 50k goal, but the glow of successful productivity on reaching the *daily* goal keeps me motivated for the next day, and the next day, and the next day, all the way to 50k!
Brittany Sousa – Pilates & Barre Instructor
Nothing is insurmountable and it’s our own self-doubt holding us back! It’s not easy to get out of our own way but the first step is realizing that our limiting beliefs like we’re not good enough, not ready, or not capable come from outside sources like society, the media, or negative influences (people) in our lives. The good news about that is they’re not true if we don’t want them to be! We can start to rewrite our story with our own positive beliefs. Each and every one of us is capable of anything as long as we’re willing to work hard for it, never give up, and never let anyone fill us with doubt. Like they say, doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will!