Throughout our journey with Voyage, the one thing we have learned over and over is that hidden within every challenge is a blessing or opportunity. It’s up to us to determine whether a challenge we face will be a step back or the catalyst for a step forward.
We had the honor of connecting with some of the city’s brightest female leaders and role models and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
Below, you’ll find their advice and links and other info so you can learn more about them, their work and how to connect with them. We’ll be interviewing many of these amazing women in the coming weeks, stay tuned.
Bailey Anderson | Health Coach | Certified Personal Trainer and Registered Yoga Teacher
My best advice for someone facing an insurmountable challenge: take a step back, BREATHE, make a list of what you can do NWO, what comes NEXT, and what gets done LAST to accomplish your goal! Make steps, take breaks, and ask those closest to you to hold you accountable!
Booze Babes |Pictured- Chanel Godwin-McMaken- BarBeez | Co-Founder- Bartender at Little Rituals
I have been in this particular situation a lot of times. When things go awry it’s easy to feel as if your whole world is falling apart. I start to look at all the things going well for me and be grateful for them. I also tell my self “be better”. Because this is only but a moment in time and moments pass.
Ioana Oancea | Artist, Life Coach, World and Life Traveler
Never give up on your dreams! Don’t give up the burning desire to realize your goals and the willingness to pay any price to get what you really want. Be patient. You’re going to be telling a different story very soon. A successful story filled with so much inspiration. You will give so much hope to so many people when they see how much you overcame to be here today.
Elice Cardenas | Artist & Blogger
Although I had always been an artist I always had a lot of self doubts. Would people want to see what I do? Would they like it? What if I’m not taken seriously because I didn’t go to an expensive art school? Then one day I realized there’s really no wrong answer to any of those questions. Yes maybe some will not like my art but maybe some will. That day I realized all I needed to do was be myself, be creative and allow my art to speak for itself. I was so surprised to how many people reacted positively. I’ve found so many local places willing to give me a spot every first Fridays. So my advice is never give up, put in the work and allow time to work itself.
April Lozevski | Interior Designer | Artist & Workshop Junkie
My best advice for someone facing an insurmountable challenge is to realize you’re not alone! I think we all have a natural, human tendency to feel like we need to conquer the world all by ourselves. However, the most successful people I know build a strong network of family, friends & business associates who step in and help carry the load when we can’t bear the weight on our own. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness ~ it is a valuable opportunity for growth and creating deeper bonds with the people in our lives.
izza Smoke | upcoming artist
You never know if you never try!
Sarahi Gomez | Beauty Vlogger and Makeup Enthusiast.
The best advance I could give someone who’s facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to stay positive what ever the situation may be. I think we all through rough times at some point of our life’s but the key is always on how we react to what ever challenge we are facing. I also truly believe that if God has given you that challenge is because you can overcome it.
Lizzi Luna | Makeup enthusiast and photography hobbyist
Oh my, I’d say take a deep breath and if you can try to tackle it a little bit at a time. There’s this expectation in our society that we all have to be completely put together, our lives all in order but I feel like that’s incredibly damaging. No one ever really has their life together. We’re humans, we’re not infallible. I try to just push on one day at a time and I try very hard not to compare my life to someone else’s and just move at my place. It’s a slower pace but for my health and sanity it’s beneficial to me not to force myself to keep up with others just because it might be expected of me. One long ramble later: Just do what you feel is best for you in the long run.
Shanelle Kunz | Entrepreneur
Ask For Help. Asking for help is actually a strength & learning to delegate is a characteristic of a leader. If you are a mama and need more time to get in work – hire help with the kids. If you need blogs written for your blog – hire someone to write them. Whatever it may be. There ain’t no shame in the “outsourcing game” and there is power is asking for help!
Brooklyn Pacconi | Registered Nurse & traveler
When you feel like something is too difficult or that things will never get better I promise you can do it. Take a moment to remember why you’re doing what you’re doing and what your goals are. It may seem like it’s unachievable but once you overcome that obstacle you will feel amazing and so accomplished and ready to take on any challenge! Remember to live a positive lifestyle and positive things will come back to you.
Tracey Grant | Registered Dietitian and Holistic Health Coach
This is something that I feel like I have had to tackle myself recently! Over the course of this year, I have written, built, and launched a 6 week web course on healing from Hashimoto’s in a natural and holistic way. When I first started, the amount of work that was facing me felt completely overwhelming, not to mention the technology aspect was completely new to me. My advice is to map it out in a tangible way that allows you to see what actually needs to be done instead of just feeling giant and insurmountable. I broke down the number of weeks that I had until launch, wrote out a list of all of the tasks that I needed to do, and then divided them up. Each week I completed those tasks, and before I knew it, the course was out in the world! It’s easy to feel paralyzed in situations like this, but even the simple action of starting to break down the pieces helps it feel less intimidating!
Calvine Malonga-Rowland | Phoenix and Los Angeles personal trainer | Owner of Bycalvine brand
My advice is to believe in yourself, it’s easy to say I know but we are strong it’s important to don’t give up and keep going ! Imagine a wall , but if you find a way to the other side your dream and happiness will be there . Challenge makes your stronger ! I arrived in the US by myself at 20, knowing no English! Today I’m a personal trainer in Phoenix and Los Angeles.
Ellie S. | business owner | musician + teacher
My advice is to take it one day at a time. Break it down into little pieces and focus on the small steps. Eventually all the little pieces will add up to the big picture.
Marian Mellen | Mindfulness Speaker and Energy Coach
Rewind to March 2019. A trip to Mexico City with my mum, arriving to bright colors and vivid art murals. Fresh tortillas on street corners, accordions- a sweet serenade in the plazas. What a treat to be back in the country I had lived years prior. We were so excited for this trip, it would certainly be an adventure- just not the kind we imagined.
The next day mom woke up with excruciating back spasms. Within moments, collapsed on the floor and I ran to call an ambulance. Tears falling down my face, I felt the fear flooding in, piercing my heart. To see someone in this kind of pain is shocking to the system. The doctora made it to our Airbnb in 40 minutes and mom was given synthetic morphine which caused an even more severe allergic reaction to her system. She was unable to move and was now needing IV’s. Her body was shaking and the pain was causing her to tremor. I didn’t know if I would be leaving Mexico with my mom or not. The emotions were high and my heart ached. With a deep trust, I leaned in to her pain and kept as present as possible. As much as my mind wanted to go to the other ‘outcomes’, I had to keep coming back into the heart beat of the present moment. Here. Now. Landing. Inhale. Exhale.
Each day, Mom regained her strength and we rescheduled our flight back to the USA. Relief flooded me as we landed and her care continued in Arizona. She is getting better, slow and steady.
Challenges. They have the ability to rip us of our inner peace, our solid ground. The present moment offers a great sanctuary of respite when we feel a challenged is insurmountable, one moment at a time- this is how we get through. How do we land in the present moment? We breathe. We breathe as deep as we possible can, fill our lungs, and we release. We sigh. We let go. We surrender.
We are never given what we cannot handle. We are supported, we are loved, we are here to move through hard things. Inhale. Exhale. My friend, you are held.
Isatta Magona | Stofresh Productions | Photographer & Music Artist
To believe in yourself and understand that life is a process and it takes you through stages, and to be patient with yourself , trust your process, believe in yourself and never give up.
Carly Monson | Photographer & Future Naturopathic Doctor
If you feel you are facing an insurmountable challenge, my best advice is to believe in yourself whole-heartedly and take the first step! Sometimes when we look at the end goal, it can feel impossible or too far away to even try. You are capable of doing so much more than you probably realize, and sometimes a change in perspective is all you need. Start small, stay positive, and before you know it – you’ll be crossing the finish line.
I think my best advice in relation to the question is to take your time. Some challenges are urgent, but sometimes we tunnel ourselves into quick solutions. I often find that my first answer isn’t necessarily my best.
Carolina S. Campos | Model & business administrator
There is nothing bigger and stronger than YOU, any moment or circumstance of your life, laugh, cry it, persevere it, fight it, acknowledge it, take responsibility and learn. LIVE IT !!! Only then will you learn to turn the page and it will be better every time, never forget that although the night is very dark it will always dawn.
I would like to express to readers the way I usually face challenges which seem to be sometimes insurmountable, is to break the challenge down. With a beginning of: How to start? Then my middle point of where I want to be and at what time and the last point I use is consistency, no matter how hard the challenge if you break it down and work on it daily you will reach and end to the challenge. I use this thought process for my job, my events I plan, my family for grief and health issues. And the other advice I can always give is never say you can’t! Because breaking down a challenge makes it seem less impossible.
Brandi Majerle | Dog Momager | Dog Trainer & Photographer
When faced with a challenge that seems impossible, my advice is to break it into smaller, more manageable steps. Start with small or easy tasks and work your way into the harder parts. Each step along the way becomes a success, and they all build together to make the final challenge possible.
I apply this method when I’m teaching my pups a challenging trick. For example, teaching my dogs to Wave, which seemed like a difficult trick to accomplish on its own. Instead, I started with teaching them how to give me a Paw, and then transitioned to High Five. All of a sudden…Wave isn’t such a difficult trick!
Amy Lee Gonzalez | Portrait Artist & Blogger
The best advice I can give someone is that you are not the only person who has felt this, though in the moment it may seem that way. I used to feel get very stressed and panic at an obstacle, and when I realized that approach wasn’t working, I decided it was time to change my view on the situation. Trying to turn a negative into a positive can take a lot of energy at first but after a while I looked at challenges as an opportunity to learn about myself and the task at hand. Eventually you’re able to pick up things quicker and sometimes avoid hiccups giving yourself a better focus on your goal.
Jacquelyn Lopez | mom & Influencer
The best advice is always to push forward with faith. Faith in the path, in the lesson, but most importantly in yourself. Weather we choose the challenge or life put us in front of it, there is always an incentive on the other side worth pushing forward to.
Nicole Hamic | Certified Birth Doula and Professional Birth Photographer
The only thing holding you back is your fear of failure. Get excited about the prospect of failure as it’s the best way to learn and so either way you’ll be successful or you’ll learn something!!!
Liz | esthetician and skin care professional
No matter how unbelievably big a project or problem may seem, there is always a way to divide and conquer It is important that you don’t lose your way as you plow through your project or problem . Periodically remind yourself of the outcome you wish to achieve and go over your to-do list and reassess where you are and where you still need to go. “It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do.
Dr. Ashurina Ream | Licensed Psychologist
The best advice I have for someone who’s facing a challenge they believe is insurmountable is—we are not required to overcome challenges immediately. It can take time. Show yourself compassion, allow yourself to pause, and ask for help whenever needed. It’s important to allow ourselves to be in those uncomfortable moments without judging the experience or making it worse. Take whatever steps you can today and don’t beat yourself up because you’re not where you want to be.
Mackenzie Beck | Ash Bae Creator
I’d advise anyone feeling this way to take a breath – and step back. We all face challenges that are put there for us to learn something from, no matter what the outcome. Someone wise told me things don’t happen to you, they happen for you. It may not always be something you can completely overcome, but you can accept it and move forward, something I’m currently learning! The universe will always be in your favor as long as your allow it to be. At times, I have to remind myself if certain challenges or unwanted events hadn’t happened, it wouldn’t have placed me where I am now. I couldn’t see the value in the “issues” until some time had passed, making me grateful for the knowledge I have now. If you learn from a situation, no matter the end result, it was worth it. Knowledge is power, and if you think of “failure” as a learning experience, you can truly never fail. The challenges that life presents you are never too large to stop you in your foot steps, your being is so much greater! Breathe and remember you are capable of whatever you put your mind to.
Jazmine Nicole | Singer | Song writer
When you come across a situation that feels insurmountable, try reaching out to your family and friends. Sometimes it can feel like time has stopped and your still going through an ordeal, but some impositions cant be fixed all by yourself, and so asking for help from friends and family could open the door to solutions.
Jennifer Beasley | Supervisor | Jewelry Maker and Graphic Designer
Whenever I face a challenge that appears insurmountable, I think of the quote from V.E. Schwab’s A Darker Shade of Magic: “I’d rather die on an adventure than live standing still.” It gives me courage and reminds me that success and personal growth cannot happen if we don’t take risks and push ourselves outside our comfort zones. And thinking of the challenge as if it is an adventure gives it more magic and pizzazz!
Karin Ashley | Lifestyle Model
No challenge is insurmountable. I phrase I learned many years ago is “THE ONLY WAY TO EAT AN ELEPHANT IS ONE BITE AT A TIME”. You have to take daily small wins. Daily goals that add up to a larger goal. That’s the only way you’re going to have it in you to excel in the present moment. You will feel good daily and feel less overwhelmed because feeling overwhelmed is self defeating. Elephant tastes good in small bites.
Shayla Laizure | Owner of Stem Design Co | Mama
The best advice I have for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable would be to p r e s s o n! Too much growth occurs from the perseverance that takes place when you push yourself beyond what you think is imaginable. Doubt is deceitful, and even failure often leads to success!