Today we’d like to introduce you to Nadya G. Ramos.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Nadya. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
@modernmillenialmom combines my passion for writing, my experiences as a millennial working mom, and my progressive views regarding women’s societal standards shaped by my upbringing.
I am the child of a single mom of five who migrated to the U.S. in the 90s in search for a better future for her children. Leaving her children and what little she had behind in Honduras my mother came to this country with high hopes and dreams. My siblings and I were raised by my aunt until I was about seven years old. After many years working tirelessly, my mom saved enough money to hire an immigration lawyer who helped her navigate the lengthy and costly process to legally bring my siblings and I to the U.S.
We grew up in Atlantic City and at the time there weren’t many people who looked or sounded like us living in South Jersey. In school I remember being one of the few Central American children in my class. Not only did we not speak the language but also, culturally we stuck out like a sore thumb in a predominantly Puerto Rican, Asian and Black community. When asked, “Where are you from?” I’d answer “from Honduras,” and often the response I would get from most people, both children and adults, was “Is that in Mexico?” or “What continent is that in?” I was an introverted child growing up in a foreign country, not speaking the language, living in a community where few were familiar with my cultural background. I couldn’t feel more like an outsider. If today I was asked to create a picture of my childhood it would be pieced together with rather dull moments painted in grey and off-white tones. So to liven up my colorless world I read a lot of fiction books and wrote stories. I wrote about everything and anything. Writing became my creative and emotional outlet.
In college when it came time to decide on a major, I chose literature thinking it would be a natural fit because of my love for books and my relationship with writing. Halfway through the first semester I switched my major to communication studies. I had an “aha!” moment and realized that I loved writing so much because it helped me better communicate what I did not know how to say verbally — my thoughts, feelings, frustrations and also my ideas, dreams and goals. Studying the process of human communication and behavior turned out to be more interesting to me than learning about the great American authors and poets. Throughout my college years, I worked nights and weekends as a blackjack dealer at a casino in A.C. to cover the balance of my tuition that Financial Aid loans did not cover. In 2013, I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in communication studies and later went on to pursue a master’s in strategic communication & public relations.
Today, writing continues to play an important role in my life both personally and professionally. It’s become more than an emotional outlet. It’s a tool that’s allowed me earn an income while being a stay-at-home mom.
Recently, my husband and I moved to Arizona weeks after we had our first baby. With our families thousands of miles away on the East Coast and a newborn we decided that I should stay home with the baby. This was until we were faced with financial hardship and had to reconsider our decision. I launched a freelancing business from home after a colleague approached me to provide English to Spanish translation services for a client’s video project and then another colleague reached out to me to write content for her company. But in the months immediately following our big move, I struggled a great deal getting adjusted to my new lifestyle. It was tough living in a new city far from my family and friends. And quite frankly, I began resenting the fact that my husband and I had become new parents during this phase in our lives because it meant I had to put my career goals on hold. Like a broken record a voice replayed in my head saying, “My mom sacrificed so much for me to only come this far,” because deep inside I felt like my life as a working woman who was working on building a career had ended. With time, guidance from my mom and my two older sisters who are also moms, plus the support of my husband, I got out of this dark space and found motivation to tackle a project I had been putting off for a while — blogging. I woke up one day and said to myself, “You are a strong and hardworking woman who just became a new mom, not a mom who has to give up being a strong and hardworking woman.” I started using Instagram to connect with other women who like me, were also searching for balance to remain true to themselves and their career goals while experiencing the joys of motherhood.
I turned my personal Instagram account, @modernmillenialmom, into a page where I share content about the things that move me including real, honest and meaningful conversations about motherhood, advocacy for gender equality, and the importance of self-care for momprenuers and women in general.
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
Nothing worth having is easy to obtain or accomplish. Setting out to start a business, bring an idea to life, or launch a new product is hard work no matter where you live or how many resources you may have access to. In my opinion the key is to be persistent. Knock on as many doors as possible and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
So, as you know, we’re impressed with MyFavoriteCosas – tell our readers more, for example what you’re most proud of as a company and what sets you apart from others.
I’m most proud of all that I’ve learned personally and professionally. It’s the experiences I have had, both good and bad, and the mistakes I have made, both big and small, that have allowed me to grow as a person.
What are you striving for, what criteria or markers have you set as indictors of success?
I do not have specific criteria or markers that I’m looking out for to measure success. Personally, I view success as an ongoing process with continuous growth. As long as I see myself evolving, learning new things, breaking bad habits, and challenging myself on a regular basis then those are the indicators that I may be on the path toward success.
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