Today we’d like to introduce you to Allison Bethune.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Allison. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
The concept for my book began 30 years ago when I became a single mother six weeks before my 20th birthday. For my 21st birthday, I became a mom for the second time. When my boys were toddlers, I went back to college and received my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. Ten years ago, I completed my Masters in Nursing Education, and I am currently pursuing my doctorate in education. My husband and I have a combined total of three adult children, along with 3.5 grandchildren. Our newest grand is due to arrive around Christmas.
Once my children became young adults, I knew there had to be more to life. I waited all this time to get them out of my house, only to find out this is when they need me the most. I also knew I could not be the only mom living in this alternate universe. I could not find one resource to help me parent adult children, so I created my own. I started my blog The Other Side of Adorable to stay sane. I let friends and family know I’d become a blogger and everyone said you need to write a book. After three long years, my first book The Other Side of Adorable was published in December 2018.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
Whew! Absolutely not!! Being a single mom is no walk in the park, I struggled mightily. I was just a kid myself, yet I was somebody’s mama. Failure was never an option. My children depended on me to give them the life they deserved to have. I went to nursing school full-time, worked part-time while full-time mom, but through my faith in God, I made it. If I can do it, anyone can do it. One of my favorite sayings is you see my glory, but you don’t know my story.
Parenting adults is uncharted territory. There’s a reason why resources do not exist. No one would have children. I faltered and failed as a parent. Writing the book required self-reflection. It also required coming to terms with my childhood included my relationship with my parents, as all of these entities influenced how I parented my children. Writing The Other Side of Adorable was a cathartic experience.
Please tell us about your work.
I’m originally from Milwaukee, WI. This summer, I held an event entitled Mamas & Mimosas. I was expecting 30-40 women to show, but that did not happen. What did happen was the women who did come, shared their hearts. We were able to talk about being middle-aged; we discussed parenting adults and minor children. We discussed mental, physical, and emotional health. What transpired in the room was magical; it was healing; it was love. That would not have happened in a place full of women. Plans are in the works to do one here in 2020.
I love mentoring other moms. Sometimes you need someone to bounce an idea off or just an ear to listen without judgment. One thing I am not is an expert on parenting adult children. However, I am the expert on parenting the children God gave me. My goal is to have moms pause, take a step back, and breathe. With adult children, you have no control. You cannot make them do what you say, even though you know what pitfalls lie ahead. I want moms to understand you and your children will be okay.
Do you look back particularly fondly on any memories from childhood?
My favorite childhood memory is going to South Bend, IN to spend the summer with my grandparents.
- Website: allisonrbethune.com
- Phone: 520-450-9026
- Email: email@example.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonrbethune/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/othersideofadorable/?ref=bookmarks
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