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Conversations with Ms Geminex

Today we’d like to introduce you to Ms Geminex.

Ms Geminex, we appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us today. Where does your story begin?
I sparked my interest in BDSM and kink after entering the ‘adult’ section of a Pride festival when I was probably 18 or 19. I saw some demos and quickly became fascinated with the world. I was initially intrigued by the psychological aspects of a bottom (receiving action) allowing a top (giving movement) to do the activities negotiated before play. In my later 20s, I would half-joke amongst my friends that ‘I would make a great Dominatrix” spoiler, but no one ever disagreed with me. However, for the longest time, the world of BDSM and being a Dominatrix were just pipe dreams and something very intangible. This all boiled down to my shyness and insecurities, making it seem very intimidating to jump into the world, especially alone.

Fast forward over a decade later, and a pandemic is challenging every one of us in our ways, I found myself. When the pandemic hit, I decided to take a year off from work and focus on myself and getting my mind, body, and soul in a balanced and happy place; all this time, though, it did leave plenty of room to do a lot of researching and googling about BDSM and fuel the fire about becoming a Dominatrix. As part of my growth as a person, I made a New Year’s resolution and promised myself going into 2021 that I would get uncomfortable until it became comfortable. I no longer wanted to fall into the category of individuals that only talked about grandeur ideas but never put action behind their words. This ultimately led me to book a flight and hotel and purchase a ticket to attend DomCon 2021 in Los Angeles by myself. If I wanted to meet and talk to individuals in the community and hopefully find a Domina I could ask to be my Mentor, I needed to challenge my comfort zone.

That trip changed the trajectory of my life in the best way possible. I could attend classes and obtain knowledge that you can’t find with a google search. It reaffirmed that this is where I belong, and this community is fantastic, friendly, welcoming, and beautiful. Most importantly, though, this trip led me to my Mentor, Mistress Damiana Chi. This mentorship has helped me develop and become a better Dominatrix and built a strong foundation of confidence and courage that has dramatically impacted my life in every way imaginable. Since that trip, I’ve fully embraced the role of a lifelong learner, Mentor, educator, and Dominatrix. I want to educate and break the stigmas, opposing views, and myths individuals might have surrounding kink and BDSM. Explain how genuinely liberating and empowering exploring your kinky desires indeed can be. I accept the responsibilities of being a Dominatrix, creating a safe space and container for people to express themselves fully and judgment-free. I am sharing the teachings of my Mentor about ethical and conscience kink. From a very young age, I always knew that I would feel the most fulfilled if I was helping people in some capacity; the traditional avenues that might fall under this category never appealed to me; after accepting my kinky self unapologetically, I now know this is the way I’m meant to do it.

Can you talk to us about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way? Would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
The biggest obstacles I encountered on this journey were the mental blocks I had put on myself that stemmed from my old ways of thinking—pushing the walls of my comfort zone and recognizing that I’m allowed to throw a plot twist in my story. Most of us will encounter imposter syndrome at some point in our lives, but whenever I feel this way, I will get little signs that reassure me that I’m exactly where I need to be and doing all the right things that are in alignment with my path. I will say that putting together a website (still under construction) has been a hurdle so far, but even then, it’s something that I look forward to troubleshooting and figuring out. I welcome any other struggles and obstacles I may encounter because I know it’s a learning experience.

Thanks – so what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
As a professional Dominatrix, the foundation of anything I do is creating a safe container for my clients to be themselves and feel free truly and for us to part ways with them feeling empowered and encouraged through their submission. I pride myself on practicing ethical and conscience kink. I find the most enjoyment and fulfillment in building a long-term D/s relationship with my submissives. Like with any relationship, it takes time to truly get to know one another, to create a more profound feeling of trust. The better I get to know my submissives can have the more enjoyment and fun in our sessions. On the flip side, I also enjoy working with novices and helping them figure out what they are actually into and want to explore further.

What matters most to you?
While I have a deep love and passion for practicing BDSM and kink and being a facilitator, Educating sits very high on my list. I want to destigmatize all the opposing viewpoints and myths surrounding all things BDSM. I want to be able to be the resource that I would have loved to have when I was curious and wanted to know how to get involved in the community, help make BDSM more approachable and less intimidating, and also ensure that they don’t jump in and are left with a bad taste in their mouth.

Finally, I tell my story with the intention and hope to encourage and inspire people to go after whatever they have been dreaming about, desiring, or hoping for. As cliche as this might sound, there is absolute truth in it, we are the creators of our own lives, and no one will hold us back more than ourselves.

Contact Info:

  • Instagram: @msgeminex
  • Twitter: @msgeminex

Image Credits
Emily Mae Dean

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