Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups tare Dani Lewisalready leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
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Sonnie Bowman Hairstylist
Advice I would give for anyone facing a challenge that they feel is insurmountable… would be to trust their gut, continue to grow their education and to believe in themselves! Sometimes we can be our own worst critics! Don’t let the fear of falling, stop them from reaching the top!
Anastasiya Owner & Operator at Hair & Nails by Anastasiya
I believe you asked the right person the right question 😉 I am originally from Ukraine. I came to US by myself 11 years ago. Then I felt like I could rule the world, today I look at it from a very different perspective. What I did 11 years ago, staying in the country over the Atlantic ocean by myself, not having my family around, no actual friends , I made it on my own. Then I felt like it was the best adventure of my life, today i feel like “ how did i do it?” I got very fortunate and I’ve met amazing people who’ve become my family and support. Thanks to them I’m here today talking to entrepreneurs with big dreams about feeling insurmountable. We all are facing challenges on daily basis whether it’s home, work, your kids or pets . But actually some dose of stress is healthy for you, keeps you engaged in life. I believe if a person puts their mind and hard work , there won’t be things that they can’t handle, everything takes time and patience. Don’t get discouraged right away, stay with it, breath and keep working towards your dream, your goal. Things stop happening, only when you stop acting, till then keep on keeping on and you’ll get there ! Stay strong and motivated, keep grinding and enjoying what you do and something really great is going to be waiting there for you!
Lisa Talev – Licensed Massage Therapist, Reiki Practitioner and Certified Health Coach
Talk to someone you admire for their perspective and wisdom—either a life coach or someone you know who has accomplished a lot, and has a unique perspective. See if they can offer you a new way of looking at your situation that feels more manageable, strategic or empowering. We often take our core beliefs for granted (and don’t realize they are operating), but those very beliefs are the “software programs” that run our lives—the mental filters that determine what we see and how we react to it. Negative or disempowering core beliefs can limit your ability to see the possibilities that are all around you, even in the most challenging situations. Talking with someone who has a very different perspective or life experience than you can help you reframe the situation—even finding things to be grateful for, that you would never have considered if you keep ruminating, over-thinking it alone.
Mindfullymel- Holistic Health and Wellness Coach, NASM Certified Personal Trainer, Dog Mom
The best advice I can give to someone facing a seemingly insurmountable obstacle is to reflect back on how you overcame all of the times you’ve faced obstacles in the past; expect it time and time again in the future. Adversity is one of those things that is inevitable and you can either let it define you, or you can define it! It’s quite an excellent teacher. I think it’s really important too, that you create clarity for yourself and what you want your desired outcome to be. Once you get clear with your desired outcome/goals, stay focused on the big picture throughout the process. Next, use your resources! Talk to others who have “been there, done that”! No sense in trying to recreate the wheel when it’s already been created. It’s important that you know that it’s necessary and OK to ask for help, and allow support where support is needed. All too often we put so much pressure on ourselves, so just slow down and learn to enjoy the process. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Understand that facing these obstacles and working to achieve your goals/dreams requires some level of sacrifice. Last but not least, KEEP GOING! Don’t give up because you’re almost there! Every day you have to the opportunity to be that much closer to living your wildest dreams so just don’t take that for granted, don’t stop. This is your chance to prove to yourself that you have what it takes, because you do. You’re resilient, and don’t you forget that. So get out there and make it happen, whatever that looks life for you!
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Nora Feyl Healthcare Real Estate Broker
Just keep swimming, if you believe in yourself anything is possible.
Laura Jai – Entrepreneur
The ultimate key is to keep going, no matter how tired you are reach the finish line. Everyday will not be easy, everyday will not be a breeze but everyday you have to decide to keep fighting. Half of what “success” is, is believing that you can make a difference and believing in everything you are and everything you have to offer. Even if you don’t think you can accomplish everything at once sit still and plan accordingly. You don’t always have to be on GO mode, rushing toward success will leave you miserable and lost in the end. Manifest it the way you want it to happen. If you fail the first time don’t give up on your yourself or your dreams, lionize that feeling as some sort of crucial life lesson and let it fuel you to keep going.
Kelsey MacMillan Health & Fitness Enthusiast
If you are faced with something that seems insurmountable, try to break it down into smaller, more easily accomplished steps. Once you have set out these smaller goals, just focus on the one at hand, and give all of your energy just to accomplish that one thing. Eventually all of the little things you accomplished will add up, and before you know it, you will have conquered the whole problem. You’re only capable of what you THINK you’re capable of.
Anne Nutrition Student + Wellness Blogger
Change your mindset to accomplish more & adapt to new situations, take on each challenge with immense gratitude for new opportunities and use this as a chance to grow.
Kate Amini – Therapist, Licensed Associate Counselor (LAC)
The best advice I have for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to utilize your resources- whether those resources are your support system, your own personal strengths, or your outlets for stress (physical activity, reading, etc). Take care of yourself, which also means knowing your limits and avoiding isolating yourself while going through hard times.
Dakota Adams – Hairstylist
Have faith in yourself and your abilities! Trust that there is good that comes from trials and hold on to that.
Layna – Women’s Fitness Coach
Any insurmountable challenge likely feels that way because of the amount of time and effort it would take to overcome it. If we dig deep down, it’s not a question of “can I?” but a question of “do I want to?” or “is it worth it?” Whether you’re overwhelmed by how far you are from your fitness goals or you’re facing something else that seems too great to overcome, my advice is that time passes anyway. Put it to work. Look back on this moment grateful that you decided to try.
Dr. Kelly Romero – Naturopathic Medical Doctor
I would tell that someone to take a step back and take a breath. Look at the challenge and identify the parts that are within your skill set to overcome. For the remaining parts, reach out to others who have the resources to help you accomplish the challenge.
Teresa Hansen Cannabis Chef + Nutritionist
When facing what feels like an insurmountable challenge I would tell someone to find strength in numbers; surround yourself with those who will help build you up instead of bring you down. Also, the mind is a powerful tool that either works for us or against. Become aware of the ways it works against and for, be compassionate towards yourself and focus on what brings you happiness.
Laurel Butterfield: Recipe Writer & Cooking Instructor
No challenge actually IS insurmountable, although a lot of them look that way at first! My first instinct is usually to run screaming from a huge challenge, until I break it down into smaller and smaller tasks (sometimes even as basic as “Wake up in the morning” or “Take a deep breath”), and then everything seems more manageable. Remember, the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.
Dani Lewis 2.5 rows of NBR Extensions, by Extension Specialist Dani Lewis
When facing a challenge you feel is insurmountable, take it One. Step. At. A. Time. Break it down into small things you can do continuously, and added together to get you through the challenge ahead of you.
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Denise Garcia, MD – Oculofacial Plastic Surgeon at Desert
When you are facing a task that seems insurmountable, break it down into a series of steps. Make a list and then tackle one step at a time. It will be rewarding to slowly chip away at your list and before you know it, your challenge will be overcome.
Rasha Gardner, MC, CCTP- a Licensed Associate Counselor
My advice to those who are facing a challenge that feels insurmountable is: don’t. give. up. I know the feeling; I know how hard life’s struggles can be, how sometimes you feel like it’s too hard to keep going or that things won’t get better. This past December I hiked the Grand Canyon for the first time ever. After already hiking for the last several hours, climbing those last three miles of switchbacks with freezing cold wind in my face, there were moments it felt impossible to make it to the top. I remember thinking, “I just can’t keep going. I can’t do this”. My mind had communicated to my body that it couldn’t keep going and for a decent amount of time, my body believed it. But then something happened… I allowed my mind to think of all the metaphorical mountains I have climbed in my life: the mountains I had conquered even when it felt impossible to keep going. Suddenly, the mountain and it’s switchbacks didn’t seem quite as insurmountable anymore. Would it still be difficult? Absolutely, but reaching the top of the mountain seemed possible once again. That is what happens when we shift our mindset to believe in all that we are capable of; we climb the once seeming insurmountable mountain and we conquer it. Don’t give up, you can climb that mountain. I’m rooting for you.
Shelby Lung- Owner of Bombshel Studio, Beauty Professional
Just keep pushing forward. Never quit. Failure – & learning from it, is a very important part of success.
Jenna Miller – Film Costume & Fashion Designer/Model/Entrepreneur
The best advice I can give to someone facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to first break it all down into small steps and handle each step one at a time instead of looking at it all as one big giant impossible leap. Remember that even one tiny step towards reaching your goal is a step forward. Give yourself credit for those tiny steps and savor the journey. With each step you will quickly start to realize that the challenge is not insurmountable after all and your path will become clear. I like to make an actual list with a breakdown of steps that I can check off as I accomplish them. There is something about looking at that tangible list in your hand with all those steps checked off that gives you an even greater sense of accomplishment. You will one day look back at all those steps as the solid foundation blocks that led you to your dream and you’ll be able to feel incredibly proud of each one. Also, do not get discouraged if you come upon a step that you cannot seem to figure out. There is always a way. Always. There is great power in thinking outside of the box so stay open minded to potential alternative routes.
Nikki D. May – Artist + Designer
My best advice for someone facing a challenge that they feel is insurmountable is to try to break it down in smaller things that feel easier to manage. Try not to think of the overwhelming big picture, but think about what is the very first step I can take to chip away at whatever the challenge is and just focus on that one thing. Complete it, and then do it again!
Alison Furno: Fitness Business Owner and Co-Founder of Creating You
Facing a challenge, you need to first understand the way you feel about the challenge does not determine the outcome. Remember your purpose within the pain and it’s that purpose which needs to be more important then whatever you are facing. Put things into perspective: if anyone, ever has overcome it- you can too. There is a quality of perseverance and understanding that needs to be developed. It takes time to overcome challenges and this is where most people make the mistake, they give up too soon. Don’t back down from your challenges, but most importantly never give up on yourself and never underestimate your capabilities.
Vanessa Joy Rozelle REALTOR®️Sonoran Joy Realty Group-Keller Williams Sonoran Living “Experience the Joy of the Sonoran Lifestyle”-Journalist-Public Relations Specialist-Wardrobe Stylist
When you take the time to engage in meditation and prayer, you remember your strength and everything you’ve overcome in your past. There is no obstacle too big—you have been preparing for this your whole life. Trust yourself.